UNDERSTANDING FRIENDSHIP II
WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO BE FRIENDS.
When it comes to finding friends, perhaps the first step is understanding what exactly friendship is. Does it mean you have each other in your Facebook list?Or that you see each other everyday ? Not really.
A relationship needs to have some key elements in order to be labeled as friendship.
A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP THAT IS RECIPROCATED.
In order for a friend to truly be considered a friend, he or she has to also believe you are their friend also without question. For these types of folks, they assume someone is their friend until they find out otherwise.
FRIENDS ARE KIND AND ACT AS A POSITIVE INFLUENCE IN YOUR LIFE
It should go without saying that real friends make you feel good, as opposed to bring you down. People who are genuinely your friend put your relationship above being right or trying to feel superior. If someone constantly puts you down, he or she is not a real friend .
However, people have bad days and act imperfect, so there are times when a true friend will be negative or hurt your feelings. The way to determine if they are really a friend (as opposed to something more negative like a frenemy) is to look at the whole of your relationship . Don't look at moments alone, but consider:
•How does this person make you feel when you're with them?
•Do you look forward to seeing them?Can you share your joy freely?
•Or do you feel you need keep quiet about your own good news when you're around them?
If someone is really your friend, they act in a kind manner. They do nice things for you.
FRIENDS DON'T KEEP SCORES, BUT THERE IS A BALANCE TO THE RELATIONSHIP.
Sometimes one friend might be in the "spotlight," while the other is cheering them on. Friends should trade off in giving each other the "floor" in a conversation and in life and should understand themselves. "Friends Are People You See on a Regular Basis."
The other key component to friendship is a real, face to face, relationship. This isn't to say that after you have established a friendship, you can't still be friends with them once they move away. However, in order to have a real friendship, you have to spend time with each other.
While online friendships can serve a place in your life, they aren't the same as a real friendship . To that end, the term "friendship" does get applied to many situations today.
Hope this was helpful?
What do you have to say about keeping online friends?
When it comes to finding friends, perhaps the first step is understanding what exactly friendship is. Does it mean you have each other in your Facebook list?Or that you see each other everyday ? Not really.
A relationship needs to have some key elements in order to be labeled as friendship.
A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP THAT IS RECIPROCATED.
In order for a friend to truly be considered a friend, he or she has to also believe you are their friend also without question. For these types of folks, they assume someone is their friend until they find out otherwise.
It should go without saying that real friends make you feel good, as opposed to bring you down. People who are genuinely your friend put your relationship above being right or trying to feel superior. If someone constantly puts you down, he or she is not a real friend .
However, people have bad days and act imperfect, so there are times when a true friend will be negative or hurt your feelings. The way to determine if they are really a friend (as opposed to something more negative like a frenemy) is to look at the whole of your relationship . Don't look at moments alone, but consider:
•How does this person make you feel when you're with them?
•Do you look forward to seeing them?Can you share your joy freely?
•Or do you feel you need keep quiet about your own good news when you're around them?
FRIENDS DON'T KEEP SCORES, BUT THERE IS A BALANCE TO THE RELATIONSHIP.
Sometimes one friend might be in the "spotlight," while the other is cheering them on. Friends should trade off in giving each other the "floor" in a conversation and in life and should understand themselves. "Friends Are People You See on a Regular Basis."
The other key component to friendship is a real, face to face, relationship. This isn't to say that after you have established a friendship, you can't still be friends with them once they move away. However, in order to have a real friendship, you have to spend time with each other.
While online friendships can serve a place in your life, they aren't the same as a real friendship . To that end, the term "friendship" does get applied to many situations today.
Hope this was helpful?
What do you have to say about keeping online friends?
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